- The five neurodivergent love languages: infodumping, parallel play, support swapping, Please Crush My Soul Back Into My Body [deep pressure], and “I found this cool rock/button/leaf/etc and thought you would like it” [penguin pebbling]
The Bigot Who Wrote “The 5 Love Languages” Might Hate You
- Gary Chapman
- Words of Affirmation (verbal compliments), Quality Time (undivided attention), Receiving Gifts (thoughtful presents), Acts of Service (helpful actions), and Physical Touch (hugs, holding hands).
- Interestingly, a 6th Love Language, “Distance”, emerged without Chapman’s consent. “Distance” was likely drafted by a person who possesses insight and self-awareness, and found themselves annoyed that all 5 of the other languages are behaviors that intentionally cause interaction by the couple.
- An emotional bid [Gottman] is when we do something to signal that we want attention and connection…the fundamental unit of emotional communication.”
- `The next time you feel like somebody you care about has extended an emotional bid, turn towards it by making them feel understood, valued, and recognized for their achievements. You may also try to strengthen your relationship by signaling someone special – and let the power of an emotional bid work its magic.
- SpIns and Infodumps “special interest,” commonly shortened to SpIn (“spin”), became the term for the characteristically-autistic tendency to develop an obsession with something specific and often obscure.
- So integral are special interests to autistic culture that autistic people will post about feeling depressed and unmotivated because they don’t have an active SpIn at the moment ﻼF
- To autists (an insider short-hand for autistic people), the sharing of knowledge and information is always welcome.
- Monotropism / polytropism: monotropism is one of the key ideas required for making sense of autism, along with the double empathy problem and neurodiversity.
- Parallel Play, Body Doubling being alone together,
- ADHD or what I prefer to call Kinetic Cognitive Style (KCS)
- the terms “deficit” and “disorder” absolutely reek of the pathology paradigm
- Craft, Flow and Cognitive Styles
[to Caverly]
- Fergus Murray https://oolong.co.uk/
- The role of flow in learning and in life, and how that relates to cognitive diversity.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ztw7e9nYNW4- Originally a talk to the Waldorf Handwork Educators Teacher Conference on the 15th of July, 202
- “Handwork”
- ? Mom pioneered “Monotropism”
- ? Inertia as symptom of, what?
- ? Filtering out sensory input: sounds, smells, buzz,
- Attention tunnel; enter, don’t interrupt
- Flow state as pinnacle of intrinsic motivation; flow = agency
- 11:50 loss of motivation and curiosity
- Self-consciousness
- Curriculum remove self-directedness
- 18:13 some students are seriously disabled when it comes to completing tasks that they don’t understand the point of…like the opposite of flow
- 1. Activity 2. Purpose / outsome
- 19:37 fractal structure
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